It’s a tough situation: go ahead and have three kids, or stick with the two we’ve already got? For some, the decision to have three kids is intentional. For others, it’s a complete surprise. Our family was somewhere in between; debating whether or not to have that third baby when lo and behold I turned up pregnant.I’ll admit that I was completely overwhelmed for a long time. Over and over again I Googled for advice on handling three kids, but just never felt satisfied with the results. So I did what any blogger would do…I asked my blogging friends that had more experience.
I’ll admit that I was completely overwhelmed for a long time. Over and over again I Googled for advice on handling three kids, but just never felt satisfied with the results. So I did what any blogger would do…I asked my blogging friends that had more experience.
Their responses were so comforting to me. And of course, I can’t keep all that good advice to myself. Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing their responses here in the hopes that it helps someone else out there too!
1. Was it easier to transition from one child to two or two children to three?
Transitioning from one to two felt pretty natural for our family, but transitioning from two to three nearly knocked us out! I’d say that definitely relates to the personality order of our kiddos though and their age gaps (2.5 years between child one and two, 18 months between child two and three).
2. Were you frightened at all by the prospect of having three kids?
I couldn’t wait to have three littles, we’ve always imagined our family with three or four kids. I was worried about the age gap between the 2nd and 3rd child and that proved to be pretty right on :).
3. What did you do to prepare your older children for baby #3?
Since I have all girls, my two older children were over the moon excited about the prospect of a ‘real doll’ addition to our family, they are both little mommies and were quite helpful (especially the 4-year-old) once baby girl #3 joined us. It was still an incredible challenge being outnumbered, but I’m grateful that we didn’t deal with really any major mood/attitude/regression from the older girls once a baby joined the mix.
4. Did any of your children act out after your third child was born?
Nothing that sticks out as a problem or a major challenge. We took a long time to do just about anything (leaving the house, walking to the park, getting dressed…) and sometimes just the sheer patience required to complete tasks with siblings would cause major frustration amongst everyone. This might trigger a tantrum or a stubborn streak but we slowly learned to take everything in stride.
5. How long did it take for your family to adjust to the change?
I would say about four months in we started to develop our rhythm and I felt a whole lot less ‘deer in the headlights’. It didn’t necessarily make it easier, but we began to get used to the adjustment of three and the youngest was getting a bit older and a bit more consistent in her schedule.
6. Is there any advice you’d like to give to parents who are outnumbered by their children?
Take it slow and try to enjoy the ride. Give yourself lots of room for growth as a family and remember that each and every challenge is a stage and a phase, and before you know it you’ll be on to the next :). This was especially helpful during sleep deprivation, potty training, the rest! When you can, team up! Family time takes on a whole new, awesome dynamic.
How many kids did/do you dream of having?
How long did it take for you to adjust to having a new baby?